Although the question is somewhat old, I still write here a beautiful proof due to J.P. Demailly in his online book Complex analytic and differential geometry located on page 298.
Theorem A: Let $\omega$ be a closed smooth positive definite $(1,1)$ form on a complex manifold. Let $\omega$ be Kaehler, then it is necessary and sufficient that to every $x_0\in X$ corresponds a holomorphic coordinate system $(z_1,\ldots, z_n$) centered at $x_0$ such that
$$\omega=i \sum \omega_{lm}dz_l\wedge d\overline z_m,\,\,\,\, \omega_{lm}=\delta_{lm}+O(|z|^2).$$
Some explanations: For the fixed point $x_0$, after translation, one may assume $x_0=0$. We then hope to achieve that $h_{ij}(0)=\delta_{ij}$. To this end, suppose that the old coordinate systems are $\left\{x_i\right\}$. Set $\left<\frac{\partial}{\partial x_i},\frac{\partial}{\partial x_j}\right>=g_{ij}$. Then we use constant linear transformation $x_i=x_i^\prime c_{ij}$ such that $$C^{T}g_{ij}(0)\overline C=\delta_{ij}=\left<\frac{\partial}{\partial x^\prime_i},\frac{\partial}{\partial x^\prime_j}\right>(0).$$ The final goal of Theorem A is obtained by using the Taylor expansion method to eliminate the linear term.
The above theorem corresponds the first two conditions in the question (also pointed out by Arctic Char in the comment: this theorem also proved by Griffiths-Harris), however, the coordinates are not so elaborate. Thus, to make the last condition hold, we need the following theorem. Demailly also write down the coefficients of the order 2 term explicitly, they are just the opposite numbers of the coefficients of the Chern curvature tensor!
Theorem B: If $\omega$ is Kaehler, we can choose the coordinate system $\left\{{z_i}\right\}$ such that
$$\omega_{lm}=\delta_{lm}-c_{jklm}z_j\overline z_{k}+O(|z|^3),$$
where $(c_{jklm})$ are the coefficients of the Chern curvature tensor
$$\Theta(T_X)_{x_0}=\sum_{j,k,l,m}c_{jklm}\,\,dz_j\wedge d\overline z_{k}\otimes (\frac{\partial}{\partial z_l})^*\otimes \frac{\partial}{\partial z_m}$$
associated to $(T_X,\omega)$ at $x_0$.
We now come to prove Theorem B.
Proof: Suppose that Theorem A holds, as a result one then can find holomorphic coordinates $\left\{w_i\right\}$ adapted to Theorem A such that
$$\widetilde{\omega_{lm}}=\delta_{lm}+O(|w|^2)=\delta_{lm}+a_{jklm}w_j\overline w_k+a^\prime_{jklm}w_j w_k+a^{\prime\prime}_{jklm}\overline w_j\overline w_k+O(|w|^3).$$
Since $\widetilde{\omega_{lm}}=\overline{\widetilde{\omega_{ml}}}$, we get
$$a_{jklm}=\overline a_{kjml},\,\,\,\,\,\,a^\prime_{jklm}=\overline a^{\prime\prime}_{jkml}.$$
It is easy to see also that $a^\prime_{jklm}=a^\prime_{kjlm}$.
The Kaehler condition implies that
$$\frac{\partial \widetilde{\omega_{lm}}}{\partial w_j}=\frac{\partial \widetilde{\omega_{jm}}}{\partial w_l},$$
therefore $$a_{jklm}=a_{lkjm},\,\,\,\,\,\,a^\prime_{jklm}=a^\prime_{lkjm}.$$
Particularly, $a^\prime_{jklm}$ is invariant under all permutations of $j,k,l$.
We want to find a change of coordinates ($b_{jklm}$ is to be determined)
$$w_m=z_m+\frac{1}{3} b_{jklm}z_jz_kz_l.$$
such that
$$\omega_{lm}=\delta_{lm}-c_{jklm}z_j\overline z_{k}+O(|z|^3).$$
Thus, by letting $b_{jklm}=-a^\prime_{jklm}$, we know that it is invariant under all permutations of $j,k,l$, one then obtains
$$dw_m=dz_m-a^\prime_{jklm}z_j z_kdz_l.$$
Then,
$$\frac {2}{\sqrt{-1}}\omega=dz_m\wedge d\overline z_m+a_{jklm}z_j\overline z_kdz_l\wedge d\overline z_m+O(|z|^3).$$
It is now easy to compute the Chern curvature tensor $\Theta(TX)_{x_0}$ in terms of the coefficients. Indeed
$$\partial<\frac{\partial}{\partial z_l},\frac{\partial}{\partial z_m}>=\left\{D^\prime\frac{\partial}{\partial z_l},\frac{\partial}{\partial z_m}\right\}=a_{jklm}\overline z_k dz_j+O(|z|^2),$$
$$\Theta(T_X)\cdot\frac{\partial}{\partial z_l}=\overline{\partial}D^\prime(\frac{\partial}{\partial z_l})=-a_{jklm}dz_j\wedge d\overline z_k\otimes\frac{\partial}{\partial z_m}+O(|z|).$$
We 're done.