Step 1: Realize $T$ is diagonal. Let
$$R_{kl}=\begin{cases}
-1 & \text{if }k=l=j\\
\delta_{kl} & \text{otherwise}\\
\end{cases}$$
therefore $R$ is the reflection w.r.t to the hyperplane perpendicular to the j-th vector in the standard ordered basis.
$$R=R^T\land R^2=I\Rightarrow R^TR=RR^T=I$$
Therefore:
$$T_{ij}=\sum_{p,q}R_{ip}R_{jq}T_{pq}=R_{ii}R_{jj}T_{ij}\\
i\neq j\Rightarrow T_{ij}=-T_{ij}\Rightarrow T_{ij}=0$$
Step 2: Realize $T_{jj} = T_{11}$. Let
$$P_{kl}=\begin{cases}
\delta_{jl} & \text{if } k=1\\
\delta_{1l} & \text{if } k=j\\
\delta_{kl} & \text{otherwise}
\end{cases}$$
therefore $P$ is the permutation matrix that interchanges the 1st and j-th rows on left multiplication.
$$(P^TP)_{kl}=\sum_{m}P^T_{km}P_{ml}=\sum_{m}P_{mk}P_{ml}=\sum_{m\neq1,j}P_{mk}P_{ml}+\sum_{m=1,j}P_{mk}P_{ml}\\
=\sum_{m\neq1,j}\delta_{mk}\delta_{ml}+\delta_{jk}\delta_{jl}+\delta_{1k}\delta_{1l}=\sum_{m}\delta_{mk}\delta_{ml}=\delta_{kl}$$
Therefore:
$$T_{jj}=\sum_{p,q}P_{jp}P_{jq}T_{pq}=\sum_{q}P_{jq}^2T_{qq}=\sum_{q}\delta_{1q}^2T_{qq}=\sum_{q}\delta_{1q}T_{qq}=T_{11}$$